The Ultimate Victim

Are we all just narcissists?

What is a narcissist but a scared inner child with the ultimate victim mentality?

Is it true that we all hold a bit of narcissism in ourselves?

I can name a handful of friends who have approached me asking, “Sammi, do you think I’m a narcissist?”

Short answer, no. Long answer, yes.

My answer to them is that if they are questioning that and aiming to change the parts of themselves that are still wounded, then they are not a narcissist. They’re just living in their victim or just need to develop more empathy. True NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is very different from narcissistic tendencies, which we all have.

How do I know so much about this?

In the summer of 2020, amidst the COVID-19 frenzy, I became addicted to a sociopathic narcissist. I take ownership of my part in that chaos. In fact, I wrote a whole book about it. (Psssst I’ll be plugging my book Chasing the Dragon a lot during my time here in this blog). Since then I’ve done a lot (cue a lot) of healing around my own victim mentality, addictions, inner narcissist, self-sabotage, and so much more.

Yes, I have an inner narcissist too. We all have a bit of a narcissist inside of us. Time to look inside and love those parts of ourselves.

We’re all stuck in some sort of victim mentality.

“Why me?”

“Why do bad things always happen to me?”

“This isn’t my fault! THEY did it.”

“Nothing ever goes right.”

Does this sound familiar? I’m sure it does. Even I, who spends a great deal of time creating awareness around victim mentality and narcissism, find myself falling into this same trap.

Today alone I found myself living in the same old story that nothing ever works out. I was rejected from what I thought was a dream job. I thought, “this is it! This is my big break! I am absolutely perfect for this job and it’s already MINE.”

But, alas, fate would have another thing in store for me.

All day I’ve been in my “suck”. Stuck in my “it’s not fair!” thought process.

Then, I remember.

What’s for me, never misses me.

And so I let it go… Something I was never able to do before my relationship with my nex.

It seems this year is all about learning to find joy in the mundane and ease in the chaos.

So I put my victim aside and decided to take action on this blog… Voilà, here we are.

This is creator mentality. How can you become less of a victim and more of a creator this week? I’d love to know.

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